The way couples sleep each night says a LOT about the state of their marriage / relationship as a whole. How do you and YOUR partner sleep together? Do you know what that body language really means? Are you the “big spoon” or the “little spoon”? Do you sleep back to back? Ever wondered what the sleeping position for your and your partner means about your relationship?
Updated on July 16, 2021
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I was reading this over on Yahoo and thought it was not only interesting, but pretty darn accurate as far as telling how your relationship is REALLY doing.
Because your subconscious mind controls the way you sleep with your partner, sleep body language can be an amazingly accurate way to assess what’s going on in your relationship – even if you can’t or don’t articulate those things while you’re awake.”
If you are the “little spoon”, you are telling your partner that you trust him/her – even at your most vulnerable moment (when sleeping).
If you are the “big spoon” you are telling your partner that you feel protective of them and are actually protecting them while sleeping.
However, if you’re the big spoon yet there is very little physical contact in that “spooning” sleep position, you are telling your partner that you’ve “got their back”.
If your sleep partner rests their head on your chest while sleeping, your partner is telling your that he/she depends on you.
Here’s the odd one – if you and your partner sleep face to face, one would think this is a very intimate and loving sleep position that implies all is well.
In reality, it really means that there is a distance in the relationship and one, or both, parts of the couple want/need more intimacy.
Now I think we all know what it means when a couple sleeps with their back to each other far on the opposite sides of the bed.
Yep… we’ve all been there/done that, right?
But, what if you two sleep back to back but only your backsides are touching?
Yep still means one, or both of you, needs space BUT not from your partner.
Perhaps life is stressful (and usually is) – parenting stress, kids, maybe even a new baby, job/work-related issues, overwhelm, etc. This body language in couple’s sleeping habits is saying, “Yes, I need space, but not from YOU“.
If you have a toddler running around, you can relate to needing some space yet still being absolutely in love with your partner.
Interesting, right? And really true as well.
Here’s a quick reference chart as to what all the different couples sleeping positions mean: